Here lately, life has been…
Well, I’m almost afraid to type the word for fear that I’ll jinx this new-found thing that’s going on around here.
Oh, what the heck. I’m just gonna throw it out there.
I’m HAPPY! I mean really happy!
Not that I’m usually angry or sad or anything like that. I mean, yeah, every new day brings new challenges, disappointments, frustrations, and various other negative things. I’m pretty sure that’s normal when you’re raising kids, taking care of a house and your family, trying to find new ways to save money and dealing with crazy extended family members. But for the last little bit, I’ve just been super dooper looper giddy. And it feels sooooooo good!
That doesn’t mean that everything is perfect in my little corner of the Universe. Far from it, in fact. But for whatever reason, it’s a lot easier to accept the bad when you’ve got the best surrounding you with love and acceptance each and every day. I’ve known for a long time now that Mountain Man loves me for who I am, unconditionally. But it never ceases to amaze me just how deep that love goes and just how much better things are knowing that he’s around.
So, I’m not sure if these are truly the secrets to happiness, but they’ve helped me immensely.
1) Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Things are not always gonna be perfect, no matter how hard you try. There’s always gonna be laundry and dishes piling up, and from time to time, there’s gonna be “stuff” laying on every surface that will hold something. That’s life.
2) You can’t fix everything, (or everyone).
You are one person and no matter how hard you try, you absolutely cannot fix all the world’s problems on your own.
3) You are not in control of anything!
When you stop and think about it, you really don’t have control over anything in this world except yourself and your own actions, and that’s even limited at times. Once you wrap your mind around this concept, it’s easier to let things be and not worry about every little thing.
4) Worrying doesn’t help! Period!
Seriously. Does actual worrying ever fix anything? No. All it does is cause internal turmoil and angst.
5) Accept yourself.
Don’t expect too much from yourself or other people. Know your limitations and know when to say enough is enough. Always strive for your best, but know that sometimes good enough is good enough.
6) Love yourself first and everything else will fall into place.
A very wise man has told me this repeatedly, but I’ve not fully mastered this one, just yet. I fully see the logic behind this concept, but I’m constantly guilty of putting others in my life before me. I think that’s an innate part of being a woman and a Mother. I am starting to see the truth in this statement and I’ve put it into practice, just a little, here and there. I kinda feel a little guilty when I do, though, so this one’s gonna require baby steps.
I’m pretty sure I’m not the first one to use these little tid bits and I’m certain I won’t be the last. In fact, the very first phrase listed happens to be the title of a book! These things just happened to enter my thoughts this morning and I thought I’d share. Plus, there’s that whole thing I’ve got going where I’m trying to write something everyday.
Again, thank you for being patient with me. I am, most definitely, a work in progress.